Complete a letter to everyone on your list and put the letters away. (Don’t look at them or reread them.) A few weeks after you have written the first letters write another set of letters to everyone on your list, without looking at the first letters. Just write down what comes to mind and date the letter. A few weeks after that, write another series of letters and date them. Eventually you will sit down and find that you have nothing left to say. You won’t hate anything, or be hurt by anything, or be afraid of anything about that person. All the unexpressed feelings will have been released from your system. (The letters are really about you, not about someone else.) When the only thing left to say is, “Dear ______ I love you because…,” you can consider yourself emotionally up to date in that relationship. That is the last love letter that you need to write to that person, and if you like you can then have a little ceremony and burn all "their" letters.